By13%! To sum it up, the researchers asked a group of people how they identified (Straight, Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual) and then about their frequency of orgasm and compared them. Here were the scores for the percentage of time that orgasm is reached with sex for each group:
STRAIGHT WOMEN: 61.6%
BISEXUAL WOMEN: 58.0%
STRAIGHT MEN: 85.5%
BISEXUAL MEN: 77.6%
My thoughts on this:
1. Men obviously have no problem getting theirs. But we knew that already. I mean, sex is usually sort of (horribly inaccurately) defined as the baseball game in which a home run is intercourse and "completion" usually occurs when the guy gets off. It's not exactly shocking that men are likely to come in a scenario that is unofficially defined by them coming.
2. Just looking at the difference between lesbian and straight women, if we are to presume that lesbians are having sex with other lesbians and that straight women are having sex with straight men, the average orgasms for straight sex are 73.2% and the average for lesbian sex is 74.7%… not too far apart. Men just take up more of the orgasm potential? Why are the straight women of the world not speaking up a little more? While much speculation can be done on this, I'm quite certain that I have the correct answer (not really):
Boner-centric sex hits the hot button for female care-takey impulses. When is it time to have sex? When his cock is hard and ready! The focus really doesn't have anything to do with when a woman's sexual response is really rocking. Nope. Just take care of that hard on, thank you very much. (Heck, most people couldn't even really tell you how to know if a woman is ready for sex anyway… but that's what happens when your sex ed is just to learn that women have a hole and make babies and we have to say NO! and keep our purity.) So, while we've got great timing on knowing when men are ready to have sex, we have crappy timing on knowing the same for women… Thank God for lesbians!! A whole group of women who don't have to give a flying crap about when a man is ready for sex and instead, just learn how to tune into female bodies. Let the research begin!!
This whole care-takey thing is something I have to spend a lot of time talking about with my sexual dysfunction gals. Straight girls, I think you need to be a little more selfish in the sack. Bring up that orgasm ratio a bit, will you? Have questions? Ask you nearest lesbian. Don't know any lesbians, or your nearest lesbian is in the other 25.3%? Ask me! I'll help you figure it out.3. It would be nice if research like this started being more inclusive of gender as well as orientation. The categories here were clearly men and women. What about our transgender folks? I'd personally love to see where they fall in the numbers. There is so much we all have to teach each other.
4. What the hell is up with bisexual women? Not only do they have fewer orgasms but according to the CDC, they have a 61% chance of violence and rape as well, which is significantly lower for both straight women and lesbian women. This concerns me for this group. Could there be evidence that maybe violence and rape (28% occurs between ages of 11 and 17) affect how one identifies? There needs to be so much research into understanding this. I mean, hell, the numbers should make any bisexual women just decide to pick a side and reap the benefits of lower abuse and higher orgasms… but obviously it's not that simple. We need to keep learning how we can help our sisters out.
Thanks for reading! Peace and Pelvic Love to you. xoxoViv